It’s Valentine’s Day! Or at least it was Valentine’s Day. I know Valentine’s Day was on Tuesday but I still wanted to talk about it. There’s so much that could be said about it that is not being said often enough.
Do you remember as a kid picking out valentine’s day cards and trying to pick the right one out of the pack for each of your classmates? I remember doing that. I remember spending a couple hours the night before trying to make sure each card was right for each one of my friends. I remember taking a long time at the store to make sure the pack I picked out to use was not the same one as one of the packs my siblings were picking out. I remember having relay races at my school to see which grade could put their valentines in their classmates’ bags first. I remember loving to celebrate Valentine’s Day.
I also remember feeling hurt when some of my classmates threw away the card I painstakingly picked out for them. I remember getting mad at my mom for not letting me get the pack of cards I had wanted to get. I remember getting frustrated when I couldn’t find the right card that fit one of my friends. I remember getting lazy sometimes and doing half the number of cards I was supposed to do before putting it off until the night before school.
Now that I am older Valentine’s Day has a new meaning. For me, it’s a time to watch all the chick flicks and love movies that I want because they are all on TV! I love romance.
Valentine’s Day is the day of love. Or at least it is the day that nationally celebrates love. But really, love should be celebrated every day. It’s not a one-day-a-year thing.
For all you couples out there Valentine’s is probably one of your favorite days of the year.
Do you remember Jacob from the Bible? Jacob was the grandson of Abraham and the one who had the twelve sons. Well before he had had his sons, he had to work for Laban to acquire the woman he wanted as a wife. In Genesis 29:20, it says that “So Jacob served seven years for Rachel, and they seemed only a few days to him because of the love he had for her.” Men that’s the love you should have for your women. Jacob loved Rachel so much that he was willing to work seven years for her. Not only that, but to him it only felt like days. He knew it was worth it.
Love between a man and a woman is beautiful.
Proverbs 10:12 tells us that “Hatred stirs up strife. But love covers all sins.” “But above all these things put on love, which is the bond of perfection.” (Colossians 3:14) You may have just had a fight with your significant other but love each other anyway. Love anyway. No one is perfect so stop seeing them as that and stop holding them to expectations of perfection. No matter what, love and respect your significant other.
Couples, please, even when you are married, please celebrate this. Don’t treat it as any other day. Yes always celebrate the love you share with someone but don’t ignore this holiday. It’s a holiday for a reason. Do something special, whatever that means for you.
Proverbs 17:17, “A friend loves at all times, and a brother us born for adversity.”
For many single men and women, Valentine’s Day is a lonely and sometimes bitter day. But it doesn’t have to be. It’s what you make of it.
First and foremost you need to love yourself. I am not saying be self-centered, but realize your worth. You don’t need someone else to make you worthy. God gives worth and He values you so much that He sent His only son to die for you. That should say something and it should mean something to you.
The Bible says “We love because He first loved us,” 1 John 1:19. You don’t love others just because you are in a relationship. You love because God loves you and calls you to love others. You have friends that love you. Celebrate that.
And one more thing. STOP PITYING YOURSELVES. Stop whining. Stop being sad about being single. Even Paul said it is better to be single than to be married (1 Corinthians 7:8). A Christian rapper named Flame in his song Move says a very key statement that has stuck with me since I first heard it, “you can spend your singleness witnessing to the nation.”
Do something with your singleness instead of wasting time complaining!
Have you ever heard of Galentine’s Day? I’ve never heard of Galentine’s Day. At least I hadn’t until this past Tuesday.
I’m still not completely sure how this came about (If you know please let me know in the comments) but from what I understand it’s a celebration of friendships between girls.
I’m all for that.
There are many girls in my life who I deeply appreciate and care a whole lot about. And I bet you girls have those girls as well. (This is friendship wise, to make things clear.) Women, please celebrate the ladies in your life. They will be there for you more and they understand you more than any guy could.
Most importantly, on Valentine’s Day, celebrate love within a family. True family will be there for you and love you more than anyone outside your family. When your boyfriend or girlfriend breaks up with you, your family will still be there for you. You only have certain family members for a certain amount of time. Value that time while you have it. Don’t take it for granted. And celebrate their family status.
This year I got a card for each one of my family members. So on my mom’s birthday, a week before Valentine’s Day, I had went to Harris Teeter to buy a cake and a card for my mom. When I got there I was on a time crunch so since I had to buy a card for a number of people, I ended up buying ten cards (crazy, I know. And cards are expensive.)
Later when I tell my sister, she’s like “You know you could have gone to the dollar store right?” I give her the look and say “No I did not know I could do to the dollar store.” That thought hadn’t even crossed my mind. I couldn’t believe it! I ended up going to the Hallmark store and to the Dollar Store a couple of days later to get other cards, and the night before Valentine’s Day I returned half of the ten cards I had bought.
The day of Valentine’s, since I had to work and then went out after, I didn’t have time to finish the writing in each card until that night. I was at the kitchen table and had been home for a little bit before my dad and my brothers came home. I was like noooo! So I moved into the living room and yelled at anyone who tried to come in.
What’s funny is when my family was knocking on the door waiting for me to let them in, I ran to put the cards I had finished (ones for my sister, and my parents) on their pillows and was out of breath when I finally answered the door.
It was all worth it. They loved the cards and I was so glad that they loved them.
Family is crazy important. Try not to take them for granted.
Matthew 22:37-38 “Jesus said to him, ‘You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind. This is the first and great commandment. And the second is like it: You shall shall love your neighbor as yourself. On these two commandments hang all the Law and the Prophets.’”
Imagine if everyone actually did this. Just take a minute and think about it. If everyone cared about others like they care about themselves, everyone would be taken care of. We would have no problems.
The Bible tells us in 1 John 3:17, “But whoever has this world’s goods, and sees his brother in need, and shuts up his heart from him, how does the love of God abide in him?”
If we put others before us, we show love to others.
It’s sad that a lot of people claiming to be homeless really are living well. My dad told me a story about how he gave money to a lady who he thought was homeless, and who said she was homeless and who dressed as a homeless person. He later saw that lady well dressed ordering food in McDonald’s. It’s sad to say that a lot of people claiming to be homeless are lying. But there are still a lot of homeless people out there.
Real love is when you put others in front of yourself. Real love is when you go out of your way to help others even it’s inconvenient for you. Real love is loving others as much as you love yourself. Real love is treating others as you want to be treated.
THE GREATEST LOVE STORY OF ALL TIME
The greatest love and the greatest love story of all time is found in John 3:16. “For God so loved the world that He gave His begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish but have everlasting life.”
Imagine if you were a father and you only had one child, son. Now remember, sons are very important, especially back in Bible times. Imagine giving your son up so that all of mankind, billions and billions of people could be saved. Would you do it? Could you do it?
You see, we’re imperfect. That’s why no matter what we do we cannot show perfect love or have the perfect love story on our own.
But you know what? When you have God, you have love. 1 John 4:7-8, “Beloved, let us love one another, for love if of God; and everyone who loves is born of God and knows God. He who does not love does not know God, for God is love.”
1 John 4:8 tells us that “There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear, because fear involves torment. But he who fears has not been made perfect in love.” Fear is the opposite of love. Not hate. Fear.
1 John 4:12, “No one has seen God at any time. If we love one another, God abides in us, and His love has been perfected in us.” God’s love makes us whole. It makes us complete.
When you accept Jesus, you accept and receive perfect love, the only perfect love. We can show others perfect love by showing them the love of Christ. Christ loved us unconditionally. Love others in the same way.
Other key verses to keep in mind1 John 4:16b, “God is love, and he who abides in love abides in God, and God in him.” 1 Corinthians 13:13, “All now abide faith, hope, love, these three; but the greatest of these is love.”
ALL IN ALL
A couple years ago, someone told me love is a decision. For a hopeless romantic like me, I just couldn’t believe that. To me, love’s a feeling. To me, that’s how it has always been and that’s how it should be.
But now I can see a more how it is a decision. I still believe it is a feeling but feelings change so much that you have to chose to still be loving and show love to others even when you don’t feel like it. That’s where the choice comes in.
I wish I had posted this on Valentine’s Day but I pray it still blessed you and I pray you keep these things on mind for next year.